Which is not really a thing. Or maybe it is, but I’m not googling it. Feel free to do so, if you like. But I’m pretty sure I just made it up. On a whim. Because I needed a title for this post.
And I’m also pretty sure that’s what a lot of these “days” are that float around on Facebook and other social media sites. Just someone wanting to make money off of a fake holiday or someone who’s bored or….who knows?
But it makes me sad to see moms who <gasp> weren’t on FB for a day, and almost “missed” National Sons Day…then hastily post a desperate apology (to a son who’s probably not even on there) and a promise that their son is really worth bragging about and how wonderful he is, ad nauseum.
In stark contrast, I’m married to a man who’s thinking says every day should be National Sons Day. And National Daughters Day. And Valentine’s Day.
You get the picture.
Not in the everybody-gets-a-trophy kind of way.
But in the sense of strengthening relationships every day kind of way.
In the saying I love you every day kind of way.
In the make-sure-that-son-knows-that-we-love-and-support-him-and-will-call-him-out-when-he’s-wrong-because-we-love-him-like-crazy kind of way.
And I try to be like my husband in that way. But of course, I’m so far from perfect it’s not even funny. So, I really feel for you late-posting moms.
Because…
Your child’s worth is not found in the picture you chose or the words you posted. He already knows how you feel about him, in a thousand different ways, demonstrated to him throughout his life thus far.
But I see it in the other posts.
So, I’m talking to you, Guilty Mama.
Stop it.
Get off Facebook. Nothing will be improved by posting or seeing other people’s posts and comparing them to your relationship.
Take a deep breath and pause. Do you really feel like he may not know how proud you are, how much you love him, etc?
Or were you just letting Facebook dictate your life? If so, whew! That’s easy! Delete it or just don’t open it again for a day. A week. You know how much of a break you need. I’m not deleting mine, because I love being able to connect with people far away so easily. But sometimes I do need a breather from it.
If you need to re-connect with your son, then stop reading this and write that text, make that phone call, walk to his room and talk to him through the door if necessary. But reach out!
Lean in!
The Lord designed families on purpose and WANTS them to be strong!
I know that one text message won’t necessarily mend a damaged relationship. But it is a step forward that says I’m trying. Sometimes, that’s all we need. And sometimes, it’s the first step in a marathon. Either way, it puts you one step closer to resolution.
I’m praying for you, Guilty Mamas.
So, go empowered.